Return to the Goddess: Integrating the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine


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This article is a prequel to the sequel of my book, Soul Sex. When I volunteered to do a workshop on the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine, I realized I did not know enough about what that really meant. My research to learn more about it led me into the subject of the Goddess and opened an entire new world of ideas to me. There is so much I decided to create the Soul Sex sequel, a workbook dedicated to integrating the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine. The following are a few ideas that resulted from my research.


I had a hard time finding a true definition of what the Divine Masculine and Feminine is. I finally settled on the following: masculine and feminine is a gender-based attribute associated with human qualities. Divine masculine and feminine is the highest and best qualities associated with each gender stereotype.
What makes a characteristic masculine or feminine? One way to categorize human qualities as masculine or feminine is based on which gender we believe has the preponderance of a certain characteristic. However, if we all sat in a room and categorized qualities as masculine or feminine, I am betting there would be some disagreement because bottom line, what we consider masculine or feminine, is based on our own personal perception. And, our perception of another’s degree of masculinity or femininity is based on what we believe ourselves to be. In other words, someone that you might consider feminine might be more feminine than you are as feminine as you are. And vice versa, if you consider someone masculine, it is because they are more masculine than or as masculine as you feel you are.

Not only is our perception of gender qualities based on our own identity but it is also very much related to cultural beliefs. Masculine and feminine qualities are not universal but differ not only from culture to culture but over time as well.

The history of gender associations with the colors blue and pink is a good example of perception shifting over time. Color distinctions for boys and girls did not develop until the early 1900s. Until then, all infants were dressed alike and mostly in white. Until 1939, pink, because it was close to the color red, was a boys’ color and blue was a girls’ color. After World War II, blue became a boy’s color and pink became a girls’ color.

In time of the Goddess, She was represented as Heaven and the Sun and her male consort was represented by the Earth and Moon. During the last 2000 years, these representations flipped and the God is now represented by Heaven and Sun and the feminine side of God as Earth and Moon.

Below is a list of stereotypical qualities I found that are associated with the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine. Read through the list and see how many of these you concur with. I, myself, found a lot of these to be androgynous or neutral. In other words, they apply equally to both males and females.

Divine Masculine
Healthy Attributes: active, adventurous, analytical, capable, consistent, courageous, determined, disciplined, decisive, fearless, focused, goal-oriented, heroic, intelligent, linear, logical, loyal, ordered, practical, predictable, protective, provider, powerful, rational, reliable, rugged, sensible, single-minded, smart, stable, strong

Unhealthy Attributes: aggressive, autocratic, authoritative, closed-minded, controlling, dogmatic, dominating, heartless, non-communicative, rigid, rule-bound, ruthless, self-centered, stubborn, tough, violent

Divine Feminine
Healthy Attributes: adaptable, beautiful, caring, care-giving, creative, ever-changing, fertile, flexible, forgiving, gentle, inspirational, intuitive, kind, loving, mysterious, nurturing, open-minded, passive, patient, peaceful, playful, receptive, serving, soft, spontaneous, sweet, tender, understanding, warm, wise, yielding

Unhealthy Attributes: ambiguous, bitchy, controlling, emotional, fickle, illogical, indecisive, irrational, manipulative, powerless, pushy, stupid, unpredictable, weak

Below is a table of comparisons of beliefs between the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine:

Communalism, Cooperation
Union / Oneness
Archetypes: Goddess, Queen, Priestess, Warrioress, Lover, Wise Woman, Muse
Unmanifested Matter
Compassionate Love
Electrical Side
Stillness, Presence
Receiving, Receptivity
Growth from Support & Praise
Earth & Water

Capitalism, Competition
Separate / Duality
Archetypes: God, King, Priest, Warrior, Lover, Sage, Magician
Manifested Matter
Ecstatic Love
Magnetic Side
Obtaining, Expression
Growth from Challenge
Air & Fire


I am fairly familiar with what it is like to live in a God-worshipping patriarchal culture. What I felt was completely unknown to me was Goddess-worshipping matriarchal culture. In my research I was looking for the sociology of Goddess culture. In other words, what were the characteristics of living in the time of the Goddess? How did they worship? What did they believe? How did they live? What did they do?

Perhaps because most of the Goddess cultures existed so far back in history, many of it before the written word, this information just doesn’t exist. Also a lot of information was destroyed during the transition from Goddess worshiping societies to the Judeo-Christian-Islam societies of the past 2000 years. Perhaps the bulk of what we can know is what archeologists and anthropologists can gather from pottery shards and statues.

The Goddess is immanent and embodies the Divine as female. She is in Nature, the Earth, and the Universe. One who worships the Goddess may be called a Goddessian. According to Judith Laura in Goddess Matters: The Mystical Practical & Controversial, the subsets of Goddessian worship are:

– Matrist – The Great Mother or other Mother imagery
– Dianic – The Maiden
– Kalian – The Crone
– Tripletarian – The Triple Goddess: Maiden, Mother, and Crone
– Kwantarist – Asian Goddesses
– Guadalupista or Guadalupera – Central and South American Goddesses
– Asherastarite – Ancient Near East Goddesses
– Willendorfian – European Neolithic Goddesses
– Gaians – Earth-based Spirituality and Environment
– Isian – Egyptian Goddesses especially Isis

I have started a comparison of characteristics of the worship of the Goddess and God as shown here on the table below.

Immanent – The Divine is located within every person, animal, plant, the Earth,          and the Universe
Polytheistic, Pantheistic, Panentheistic
Matriarchy, Matrilineal, Matriotism
Philogynist, Women are equal or dominant
Sexuality is natural & sacred
Congregation is in a circle
Congregation shares thoughts
All are equal in spiritual authority
Leadership is rotated
Congregants are equally connected
Conducted through rituals and celebrations
Little to no dogma or book of rules
Holistic thinking
Body affirming
Earth centered
In right relationship with Nature

Transcendent – The Divine is located outside (usually above) the material world
Monotheistic, sometimes Henotheistic
Patriarch, Patrilinear, Patriotism
Misogynist, Women are a lower caste
Sexuality is sinful & shameful
Congregation faces a pulpit
Congregation listens to a sermon
One individual (male) is considered specially ordained
Leadership is fixed (usually a sole male)
Congregants are in a fixed hierarchy
Conducted by worship
Much dogma and many rules
Dualistic thinking
Body denying
Heaven centered
Rules over Nature

Even though patriarchal God-worship has dominated much of the world the past 2000 years, they do have Divine Feminine aspects within them. Most likely they have been carried over from the earlier Goddess-worshipping cosmologies. The following religions have the presence of the Divine Feminine within them:

Taoist                         Yin
Kabbalah                    Shekhina
Gnostic                       Sophia
Buddhist                     Praj-na-para-mita (wisdom)
Christian                    Grace & Faith
Catholic                      Mother Mary & Virgin Mary


Goddess worship can be dated as far back as 33,000 years ago. It would be natural to see the Divine as Feminine at that time. The people were very in tune with the Earth and Nature. They had no modern comforts such as structures to separate them from the natural elements. Survival was dependent on hunting and gathering skills. It probably was not known what the male’s role in procreation was. So the female was the one with the power to procreate. Societies were matrilineal and matrifocal (see reference glossary at the end). Eventually agricultural skills and domestication of animals were added to hunting and gathering skills. Nomadic lifestyles were replaced by life in villages. Societies were communal. Food and property were shared. The Goddess was the main deity. The Divine Masculine was present as her lower ranked male consort.

Goddess worship was dominant around the world throughout the Stone, Copper, and Bronze Ages. This was also the Age of Leo, Cancer, Gemini, and Taurus. In the transition from the Bronze Age to the Iron Age, which was also the shift into the Age of Aries, metal tools and weapons were invented. This was accompanied not only by a rise in warfare and aggression, but in the ways of living, and shifts in spiritual beliefs. The surplus of material goods and animals began to be accumulated and hoarded by individuals. Men, being physically bigger and stronger, were the most powerful at gathering wealth. In order to protect their property, God worship, with the Divine Masculine as the dominant force, and consequently rules and restrictions against the Goddess, increased rapidly. Most of today’s religious factions began in this period of time, including Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, Islam, and Christianity.

There was a brief time when the God and Goddess co-ruled. This was the time of the Greek and Roman Pantheons. Also Hinduism has a good balance of Gods, Goddesses, and even many Androgynous deities. However, the Hebrews believed that there was only one true deity and most of the laws set forth in the Torah, and subsequently the Bible, were specifically designed to “kill” off Goddess worship and lower the status of women to be below men. With the dawn of the Age of Pisces, the patriarchy of Christianity came into full power.

I have created a graphic representation of the historical timeline of religions and ages. Anodea Judith, in her book The Global Heart Awakens, overlaid the chakra system on the timeline of human history. The first and second chakras were at their peak during the time of the Goddess. The third chakra rose to its peak during the rise of God worship, specifically monotheism. We are just now entering into the energy of the fourth chakra. It seems to be no coincidence that it is timed with the onset of the ascension energy and the Age of Aquarius that we are now transitioning into.


Deepak Chopra, in his new book The Future of God, explains his concept of the progression of spiritual energy on Earth as:

God 1.0 – The last 2000 years of religious belief that God is the Father, the big man in the sky that was created in our image. His role is the supreme lawgiver, the divine protector, the punisher, and the loving father image.

God 2.0 – Humans are shifting into the belief that God is the “interface between us and infinite consciousness”. Characteristics of those that are experiencing God 2.0 include: becoming centered, gaining self-awareness, experiencing higher consciousness and more purpose, enlightenment, and merging with the source [pure consciousness].

Chopra says that God 1.0 is a noun. God 2.0 is a process, a verb.

What Chopra left out of his book is Goddess 1.0, what I call the period of Goddess worship that predated God 1.0. In addition, I believe in order to achieve the level of consciousness that Chopra refers to, we must reframe God 2.0 to encompass the energy of both the God and the Goddess. Perhaps it would be more accurate to call it Androgyne 1.0, because it is the Androgyne that is gender neutral; that embodies all of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine qualities. The Androgyne is the Divine Marriage of the Masculine and Feminine. It is the Divine Androgyne that is the energy in alchemy that can ascend back to the spirit world.

God 2.0 must include the Return of the Goddess. The patriarchy and monotheism of the past 2000 years has created an incredibly unbalanced energy on Earth. India is the only country where the Divine Feminine is worshipped today by a large number of people.

The alchemical process of how the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine descend and re-ascend to the Spirit World (called the Logos) is shown in the diagram below. Spiritual energy (manifested as the Soul) descends to Earth as separate Masculine and Feminine energy. A Sacred Marriage of the two creates the birth of the Divine Androgyne (a unification of the Masculine and Feminine) who then ascends in Consciousness, returning to the Logos.

AlchemyIt is a principle of physics that anytime two separate energies merge, they create a third and more powerful field of energy. The Androgyne’s power is in this third, balanced energy field.

Sharon Mazer says that “this divine union relationship is a co-creative partnership of equality. The child of cosmic birth is referred to in alchemy as the True Self, and it is created from a union known as the sacred marriage of dualities. In the Greek alphabet, the letter Delta (triangle/triune) was the symbol for cosmic birth. The triangle can represent: father/mother/child or the Perfect Union of the Two that creates the Third or the perfect union when two become one.”

So Spirit, as represented in our Soul, evolves through the integration of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine. I believe there are two ways to integrate these two energies:

1. Balancing the masculine and feminine within oneself as represented by Ardhanarisvara, a Hindu deity that is half male-half female.

Ardhanari2. Through relationship with a partner as represented by Shiva-Shakti blending the male-female within the posture of making love.

ShivaShaktiMazer believes that in order to experience a unified field with a partner, one must first connect with the internal qualities of masculine and feminine energy within one’s self.


We are at the entrance into the Age of Aquarius. This will be a time of spirituality and transformation. Aquarians are psychic, magical, and spiritual. Old superstitions and dogmatic religions will die away as the Divine Awakening or Ascension occurs. It will be a time to celebrate diversity and individuality, peace and prosperity.

Lion Goodman says that as incarnated humans, we stand between the earth and the sky as a product of both mother and father. The soul, when not in human form, is a being of light and energy. It has no gender. Therefore, gender is a construct of incarnation and each of us carries the archetypes of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine in our psyche.

Earth is moving away from its role of providing dualities for incarnated humans into being a place of connection and universal oneness. Merging the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine is one of these dualities that will collapse to create a balanced Divine Androgyne.

Lion Goodman also says that in cultures where both male and female deities are worshipped, there is more parity between men and women. Right now our dear Mother Earth is suffering greatly from over-abundance of masculine energy and an under-abundance of feminine energy. If Earth is to survive, actually if we are to continue living on Her, we must bring the Divine Masculine into balance with the Divine Feminine. Let’s all welcome in the Age of the Aquarian Androgyne.


• A form of social organization in which the father or the eldest male is recognized as the head of the family or tribe, descent and kinship being traced through the male line.
• Government, rule, or domination by men, as in a family or tribe.

• A form of social organization in which the mother is recognized as the head of the family or tribe, descent and kinship being traced through the mother.
• Government, rule, or domination by women.

• Devotion to Mother Earth, ecology, sustainability, peace and the survival of life and the human species.
• Love or celebration of women’s influence upon society; the feminine equivalent of male patriotism.

• Love of country; devotion to the welfare of one’s compatriots; the passion which inspires one to serve one’s country.
• The desire to compete with other nations; nationalism.
• Love or celebration of men’s influence upon society; the masculine equivalent of female matriotism.

Matrifocal – A group, tribe or household led by a woman.

Matrilineal – Designating or of descent, kinship, or derivation through the mother.

Patrilineal – Designating or of descent, kinship, or derivation through the father.

Misandry/Misandrist – Hater of men.

Misogyny/Misogynist – Hater of women.

Philogyny – Love of or fondness for women.

Philandry – Love or fondness for men.

Androgyny – Both male and female in one; of or marked by a blend of male and female characteristics, roles.

Gyandrous – Exhibiting characteristics of both feminine and masculine.

Gynandromorphic – Having male and female characteristics.

Hemigynous – Exhibiting characteristics that are predominantly male. Possessing qualities that are half-woman; womanish.

Hemiandrous – Exhibiting characteristics that are predominantly female. Possessing qualities that are half-man; effeminate.

Androcentrism – An ideological focus on males and men, and issues affecting them, possibly to the detriment of non-males.

Gynocentricism – An ideological focus on females, and issues affecting them, possibly to the detriment of non-females.

Theology – The study of religious doctrines and matters of divinity; the study of God and the relations between God, humankind, and the universe.

Thealogy – The examination of doctrines, scriptures, and practices in various religions focusing especially on: the portrayal and voice of women in sacred writings and practices; the role of women in religion historically and at the present time; and conceptualizing and imaging of the divine. (Definition from Goddess Matters: The Mystical Practical & Controversial by Judith Laura.)

Henotheism – There may be more than one deity but only one is worshipped.

Monotheism: Only one deity is worshipped.

Panentheism: All life and life forms are encompassed within the Divine.

Polytheism: Many deities are worshipped.

Pantheism: The Divine is within all individual life forms including the Earth and the Universe.

Copyright © 2015 Drake Bear Stephen. Except where acknowledged.

Smudging Ceremony


The dictionary defines smudge as “a fire made to produce dense smoke and smoke produced by burning a material in containers, especially for driving away insects or protecting plants from frost.” However, this article is about the act of smudging to cleanse, purify, and protect physical and spiritual bodies, to banish negative energies from structures and vehicles, and to create sacred space for ceremonial purposes.

Common ways to smudge include burning smudge sticks (herbs that are tied into a bundle), braided herbs and botanicals, or loose herbs (burned on charcoal or in a fire pit). Smudging releases the energy and fragrance of the herbs and botanicals so they can heal, cleanse, and purify.

Great respect should be given to the process of smudging for a relationship is being formed between you, the plant spirits, the Ancestors, and the Great Spirit. Each tool in the smudging process is associated with a different element:

  • The shell represents Water
  • The unlit herbs and ashes represent Earth
  • The lit herbs represent Fire
  • The smoke represents Air
  • Your prayer or intention represents Spirit


Smudge at the new moon when you are starting a new project or celebrating a new beginning. Smudge at the first quarter moon when you are expanding your capabilities, increasing your prosperity, or taking action to change something in your life. Smudge at the full moon when you are leaving something or somewhere, moving, ending a relationship, or removing negative energies. Smudge at the last quarter moon to end a project, let go of a relationship, release karmic actions, or clear unwanted/unneeded energies.


There are two main types of smudging materials: smoking (such as burning herbs and resins) and smokeless (such as sprays or unlit plants). Below is a list of materials traditionally used for smudging:


Smudge Sage Sage is used to drive out evil spirits, negative thoughts and feelings, and to keep negative entities away. It is used as a smudge to purify the mind, body, and spirit before prayer, meditation, ritual, divination, or ceremony. Sage is also used to purify sacred items such as pipes, magical tools, tarot decks, crystals, and feathers. It can be used for individuals, vehicles, structures, and land. Sage can also be carried in a pocket or medicine pouch for personal and spiritual safety. White sage is considered the king if all sages because it has the strongest aromatic properties of all the sages.

Smudge Sweetgrass0 Sweetgrass is used to bring positive energy in after negative energies are banished by using sage. Sweetgrass invites the good spirits, ancestors, and spirit helpers. It is sometimes called the hair of Earth Mother and is braided before it is harvested.

Smudge Cedar The Evergreens (cedar, juniper and pinion pine) generally provide balance and harmony.

Cedar is used as a purifier, to attract good energy, for protection, and to decrease negativity.

Juniper restores balance; purifies and stimulates; attracts peace, happiness, and restful sleep; and aids in meditation, clairvoyance, and manifestation. Juniper can be used to call in loving energy and spirits. It was used to purify temples and to resist disease in ancient times.

Pinon is used to bring protection and to clear spaces of negative energy. A pile of needles can be burned in an abalone shell.

Smudge Tobacco3 Tobacco is a very sacred botanical in the Native American tradition. It amplifies prayers, provides healing and purification, extracts negativity in spiritual healings, and allows communication with spirits. It is used in healing by lighting and blowing smoke over the client. Lighting tobacco should always be done in a ceremonial manner.

Smudge Palo Santo Palo Santo (holy wood) is a tree that inhabits the South American Gran Chaco region (northern Argentina, Paraguay, Bolivia and Brazil) and Ecuador. The tree belongs to the same family as frankincense and myrrh. Palo Santo is burned to guard against bad energy and in extraction of foreign energies from the energy body.

HERBS and FLOWERS can also be burned in smudging ceremony. Although less commonly seen, these plants all have beneficial properties:

Lavender is useful for attracting peace and happiness; aiding meditation, divination and manifesting; and to call in fairies and elves.

Yerba Santa Leaves are used for enhancing psychic abilities, magical protection, meditation, divination, and healing and spiritual strength.

Rose Petals are used for attracting love, conferring peace, stimulating sexual appetites, enhancing beauty, meditation, divination, increasing psychic abilities, contacting beings in other dimensions, and psychic communication. Rose petals are used to call in the power of the heart.

Hibiscus Flowers are used in divination, psychic communication, rejuvenating the senses, and restoring life force.

Osha Root (Bear Root) is used for self-confidence, strength, and to invite bear spirit medicine.

Mugwort is used for divination, dreaming, prophecy, and divinatory success. Native American tribes rubbed mugwort on their bodies as protection from ghosts.

RESINS are burned on charcoal in incense burners.

Pinon is used to cleanse, strengthen, warm, refresh the senses, and revive a tired soul. If is used by Native American cultures for its spiritual and healing properties.

Copal is used for divination and cleansing. Copal is used by the Mesoamerican peoples. Mayan shamans use it prior to ingesting mushrooms.

Myrrh is used for spirituality, meditation, happiness, release, transformation, strength, confidence, and stability. The Egyptians used myrrh in healing and passing rituals and to embalm bodies.

Frankincense is used for meditation, healing, and to confer divine blessings.


Smokeless smudging can be used in places where smoke is not appropriate due to fire laws or individuals who have allergies to smoke. The smokeless smudges include:

Smudge Florida Water Florida Water (Agua de Florida) is a 19th century formula for eau de toilet that blends an array of floral essential oils in an alcohol base. The name refers to the fabled Fountain of Youth said to have been located in Florida. Florida Water is popular among South American and Caribbean cultures and is used in magical and ritual traditions including hoodoo. Other purposes it is used for are: phukuy (spitting with breath) to ritually clear individuals, objects, and areas; in scent bowls of water set out for the spirits of the dead; and in a spray bottle to cleanse the poq’po (energy bubble surrounding the human body).

Homemade Florida Water can be made by adding essential oils to a vodka base. The oils I use in my formula are: Angelica Root, Bergamot, Chamomile Roman, Clary Sage, Lavender, Rosemary Cineole, Rose Otto, and Ylang Ylang.

Smudge PaloSanto Spray Palo Santo Spray and Smudge Sage Spray Sage Spray can be bought commercially. They contain the essence of the plant and can be used for the same purposes as listed in the smoking smudge section above.

Freshly collected branches from Rosemary and Bay Laurel plants can be used to sweep or wipe down an individual, object, or area.



1. Light the plant and wait for it to smolder, letting the smoke start to rise as it begins to carry your prayers to Great Spirit.

2. If using a smudge bowl, rub your hands in the smoke to cleanse them. If using a smudge stick, use a feather to direct the smoke.

3. Scoop the smoke in the following pattern to the 9 Directions:

  • To the 4 directions starting with the East, turning clockwise to the South, to the West and to the North.
  • Downwards to Mother Earth.
  • Upwards to Father Sky, Great Spirit, Grandmother Moon, Father Sun, Star Sisters and Brothers.
  • Inwards to your heart welcoming Connection, Presence, Balance, and Oneness.
  • Over the left shoulder to the Spirits.
  • Over the right shoulder to the Ancestors.

4. Say a prayer asking Great Spirit to remove all negativity and unwanted energies (see prayer section below).


1. Breathe in the smudge, visualizing the smoke purifying your body from the inside.

2. Scoop the smoke to the following:

  • To the head, so you will think good thoughts.
  • To the eyes, so you see the truth.
  • To the throat so you will speak always speak in truth, in kindness, and in non-judgmental ways.
  • To the ears, so that you will truly listen and hear only the truth.
  • To the heart so you feel connected to all living beings in a loving way.
  • To the solar plexus so your emotions connect with the Earth Mother.
  • [if female] To the womb, so your life giving energies go out into the world in balance and harmony.
  • Under the feet to the dark side of your soul and to walk in peace.


1. The individual to be smudged should stand with feet slightly apart and arms spread slightly. They should remove hats. When you reach their feet, they should raise each one consecutively so that the smoke can swirl beneath the foot. Some individuals literally soak or bathe in the smoke.

2. With a feather, fan smoke towards the individual. Begin at the front at the head and work your way to the feet.

3. Repeat the process on the back of the individual.

4. You may want to end with a short prayer to Great Spirit for the individual.


1. Begin at the front door and work clockwise around the structure, through all rooms, opening all drawers and closets. Finish off the smudging process at the open front door.   OR:

2. Come to the center of the room. Turn to the East and fan smudge out into that direction 4 times, saying: Spirit of the East, Great Spirit of Air, cleanse and inspire this space.

3. Turn to the South and smudge 4 times, saying: Spirit of the South, Great Spirit of Fire, strengthen and bring peace to this space.

4. Now turn to the West and smudge 4 times, saying: Spirit of the West, Great Spirit of Water, energize and protect this space.

5. Turn to the North and smudge 4 times, saying: Spirit of the North, Great Spirit of Earth, ground and cleanse this space.

6. Squat towards the floor and send smudge down to the floor 4 times, saying: Great Mother Earth, nurture this space from below.

7. Return to your center position and look upwards, sending smudge up to the ceiling 4 times. Say: Great Father Sky, guard this space from above.


Do not smudge where infants, pregnant women, asthmatic or allergy-prone individuals are present.

Avoid fire hazards by never leaving burning smudge or charcoal unattended.

Do not blow into a burning smudge mixture as it is seen as blowing in your one’s own negativity.

To extinguish a smudge stick quickly, tamp the end out in sand or soil. Do not use water.


1. Pour a small amount into your hand. Rub your hands together and clap loudly 3 times.

2. Inhale the vapors saying a prayer into your hands. Then brush these prayers over your body.

3. When done, blow the energy off your hands upwards towards Great Spirit.


Here are a few prayers you can recite during smudging ceremonies.

PRAYER 1 by Unknown
Great Spirit, may my prayers travel up this smoke to you, that you may bring blessing and peace to [fill in the blank]. I know the blessings travel down through this smoke to me and I give thanks for the blessings received.

PRAYER 2 by Unknown
From the Element of Fire
Comes this smoke, which is Air.
From the Element of Earth
Grows this plant, which is Water.
I call upon the Elements and the Blessings of Spirit
To please cleanse this [area, space, being, etc.]
For the highest good of all.

PRAYER 3 by Travis Bowman
Great Spirit I come before you with an open heart, I ask that you cleanse this space and make it sacred.
May our hearts be cleansed that you might hear its messages clearly.
May our minds be cleansed so that we can function from the highest vibration.
May your eyes be cleansed so that we can see the signs and wonders around us.
May our mouths be cleansed so that we speak only truth and loving kindness.
May our throats be cleansed that we may speak rightly when our words are needed.
May our hands be cleansed so that we may create many beautiful things in your name.
May our feet be cleansed so that they may take us where we most need to be.
May our whole beings be cleansed and bathed in your beauty so we can be more like you.
May all who commune here and this page be washed clean by these smudging prayer intentions.
And may these same intentions carry our prayers to the heavens, so that we will know your life, light, strength and protection.
So be it!


The Smudging & Blessings Book: Inspiration Rituals to Cleanse & Heal – Jane Alexander
Complete Book of Incense, Oils, & Brews – Scott Cunningham
Smudging & Incense Burning Essentials – Cassandra Eason
Incense & Incense Rituals – Thomas Kinkele
Sage & Smudge: The Ultimate Guide – Diane Ronngren

The Magic of the Mesa: Andean Medicine Bundles


Mesa is a Spanish word that means “table”. In the Inka tradition, a mesa is an altar used for ceremonies and healing. Inside is a collection of sacred objects, including khuyas (stones), imprinted with energy. These sacred objects are wrapped in a mestana (Andean textile). The patterns woven into the mestana have meaning, intention, and energy, which interacts with the khuyas.

#1: Munay Mesa
My heart can be your mesa.
Drop in your weary stones of pain
And the seeds of love will grow.
Round and round we travel
On a heart-shaped wheel.
Let’s journey to new directions together.

#2: Mesa Skins
The skin of my mesa changes as my soul transforms.

#3: Paqo Bear’s Mesa
13 uses for the mesa include:

  1. By mocking up our intent, the mesa becomes a magnet that transforms intention to reality.
  2. By being a surrogate sucker, the mesa becomes a tool of healing.
  3. By being a holder of energy, the mesa absorbs energy at sacred sites.
  4. Likewise, as a holder of energy, the mesa can pass energy when giving the Sacred Rites.
  5. The mesa can be opened to provide a portable altar of sacred items.
  6. The mesa provides a ground on which to perform divinations.
  7. The mesa can be left at home and become a beacon of energy that calls one home safely when traveling.
  8. The mesa can be a companion, always at your side, during day or during sleep.
  9. The mesa facilitates personal transformation as it is being created during the journey around the four directions.
  10. The mesa links energetically to other mesa carriers and to the ancestral lineage of mesa carriers.
  11. The mesa is a map of personal cosmology. “When I look into my medicine bundle, it’s a mirror of myself, and it’s not just that, it’s a place where I can consciously transform myself.” Concept and quote by Jim Hagedorn.
  12. The mesa facilitates sourcing from the Spiritual Collective Consciousness. “The Transcendent Global Mesa is what we’re all sourcing as we open our medicine bundles in these New Times!” Concept and quote by Wake Wheeler.
  13. The mesa is a portal to multiple dimensions. “My sense is that the mesas are working not only in this dimension but in others as well. Working on our behalf personally, as they have since we invited/initiated them.” Concept and quote by Kinlen Wheeler.

#4: Have you hugged your mesa today?
As a mirror of myself, my mesa is Two Spirit as shown by the two little bear spirits.

*A Two Spirit holds the energy of both male and female in one body. They are the third gender in most Native American tribes. The third gender is comprised of individuals that have a gender identity that is neither male nor female or both male and female, thus they are able to walk between the worlds.

#5: Two Spirit Khuyas
Inside are many Two Spirit khuyas on a Four Spirit cloth.

#6: Two Spirits wrapped in a mesa cloth.
The Blanket Ceremony is a Native North American wedding tradition. Here these Two Spirits are wrapped in a rainbow blanket to represent the marriage of male and female energy to create the balanced Androgyne.

Copyright © 2015 Drake Bear Stephen. Except where acknowledged.

Animal Speak: Wise Words from other Species


Animal Series 1S
#1: Learn from egrets. Have no regrets.

Animal Series 2S
Learn from a peacock. Strut your stuff in living color.

Animal Series 3S
Learn from a cow. Procrastinating? Time to mooooove.

Animal Series 4S
Learn from a jay. Nuts of a feather need to flock together.

Animal Series 5S
Learn from a squirrel. A peanut for your thoughts?

Animal Series 6S
Learn from a bear. Love can bear all things.

Animal Series 7S
Learn from an elephant. Have a huge heart.

Animal Series 8S
Learn from a seal. Seal your deals with love, light, and integrity.

Animal Series 9S
Learn from an ostrich. You can see where you are going much better when your head is not buried.

Animal Series 10S
Learn from a sheep. It’s hard to see where you are going with wool over your eyes. Baaaad eyesight creates sad hindsight.

Animal Series 11S
Learn from a turkey. You’ve got to gobble up life with gusto.

Animal Series 12S
Learn from an ape. Don’t monkey around. Make every minute count.

Animal Series 13S
Learn from a monkey. Go ape over what makes your heart tick.

Animal Series 14S
Learn from a lizard. No mountain is too high to scale when your heart desires it.

Animal Series 15S
#15: Learn from a quail. Honor your accomplishments by wearing a feather in your hair.

Animal Series 16S
Learn from a pig. It’s ok to hog all the love you can get.

Animal Series 18S
Learn from a seagull. Fly free and fish for what nourishes your soul.

Animal Series 17S
Learn from a reptile. Lay in the sunlight to regenerate your soul.

Animal Series 19sml
#19: Learn from a llama. Pack in intention into our life. Live Responsibly. Love Sustainably.

Animal Series 20
#20: Learn from a beaver. Give a dam.

Copyright © 2015 Drake Bear Stephen. Except where acknowledged.

Flower Speak: Petals of Passion


Intro to Flower Series – Petals of Passion:
The frame is flower photos and the theme is love. I chose love because the flower is representative of the act of love. It is both the female organ that attracts with its petals, and the male organ that produces pollen with its stamen. Flowers are the perfect state of balance, not only hermaphroditic but bisexual as well.

Flowers also represent the cycle of Life. In the beginning, the flower begins as a bud. As it matures it blooms and eventually produces seeds which take root to reproduce the cycle. Then the flower eventually withers and dies. So, too, our soul, which begins its journey as a seedling from Source, journeys through many cycles to eventually come to full bloom. So never worry, where you are, just bloom where you are planted. And never worry, when you will bloom, as late bloomers are the most beautiful of all.

#2: Love is a journey and if we wonder where it will end, we will never travel.

#3: Love is a miracle worker for the lonely. Spread it generously.

#4: Memories are the back roads of my mind. Traveling down these country lanes, the thoughts of love are gently worn.

#5: Loving someone can be such a prickly affair. But don’t lose sight of the bloom.

#6: Hermit hearts are simply hearts on hiatus.

#7: It is not another person’s love that opens your heart, but your own. Don’t die with an unused heart.

#8: Caution! Open heart walking. Love words talking.

#9: Let love power your heart and propel your journey through life.

#10: Feel like your light went out? Rekindle the pilot to your heart’s passion.

#11: Twin flames, twin souls. Open hearts the common goals.

Flower Series 11S
#12: What we see in a new lover is what we think we want but what actually what we have attracted is who we think we’re worth.

#13: I can remember the summer day in your smile and love was lying on the beach a long while.

#14: I miss you as ever. I love you forever. Ever more. More. I want more.

#15: The cure for loneliness is drinking the elixir of self-love.

#16: Your love is a sunrise in my heart.

#17: Take my lonely, worn heart and make a nest for it. Keep it there warm a while. And while you are at it, take my lips and make them curve upwards. Take my soul and give it hope once again.

Flower Series 18sml
#18: We spend years looking for that big pot of gold only to discover it can’t be found in our wallets but in our hearts.

#19: Sing me a lullaby of love. Take me to Neptune and tenderly heal my Chiron.

#20: I know I am loved even if it’s only me doing the loving.

#21: Come to me in dreams or in day I will not turn you away but always open my heart’s gateway.

#22: No true loner is ever lonely when alone because Life is his true lover.

#23: I want to crawl behind your eyes to see what you see in me. I want to crawl into your heart to stay there warm a while. I want to crawl beside your soul to bask in its lovely light.

#24: Embers growing, embers glowing. The coals of my soul erupt into flames. Blue blazes burn red hot. Because the heart is an organ of passion.

#25: Ignorance is to hate. Knowledge is to love. Difference is to hate. Likeness is to love. Let’s give difference a chance.

#26: Art is a product of love and love is an art.

#27: The human heart is the most resilient organism in the universe. It can be bruised, beaten, broken, and rejected, yet it will rise like a phoenix, still pumping, a spark of passion that will once again burst into flame. The human heart will do this over and over, continuously fueled by love.

#28: Afraid of getting hurt? Put a condom on your heart and practice safe love.

#29: Your head might echo with everyone else’s voice but your heart speaks with only one voice, your own.

#30: Feel with your eyes. See with your skin. Think with your heart. Love with your mind. Use all your perceptual receptacles to track your Truth.

I conclude this series with the following comment: If the human heart were an army, no battle would be lost. If every cell in the body was human heart, it would never succumb to disease. If the economy were a human heart, no fortune would be lost forever. And if the world were full of human heart, no child would be unloved, no adult would be lonely.

Copyright © 2015 Drake Bear Stephen. Except where acknowledged.

Some Fresh Concepts excerpted from Soul Sex: The Alchemy of Gender & Sexuality




The  Soul Globe: Instead of linear models of gender and sexual identity, I propose a holographic model of the soul. An individual’s identity can move to a near infinite number of points in order to learn from different experiences. This movement may happen in one lifetime or over multiple lifetimes. Other human constructs, in addition to gender and sexual identity, such as race, creed, color, culture, ancestry, age, socioeconomic status, and spirituality are also resident on the holographic soul.

The Transsexual Medicine Wheel: This wheel represents the transition of a transsexual individual to the life and body of desire. The journey begins in the East direction, the place of Preparation. The Transformation begins in the South. Moving to the West, Assimilation begins. In the North, Liberation is felt as jubilation. The final direction is the Center, which is the place of integration. The Self now stands in right relationship to itself in the Inner World and itself in the Outer World.

Chameleosexual: An individual that is sexually versatile depending on the gender of their partner. An example is an individual that plays the bottom (receptive) role when with male sexual partners and plays the top (active) role when with female sexual partners.

Copyright © 2015 Drake Bear Stephen. Except where acknowledged.

Graphic Dictionary of Gender and Sexuality Symbols



Sex, is a physical characteristic of our bodies. Some individuals have male genitalia, some have female genitalia, and others have some of both. Gender identity is a consciousness of who we are. Components of our gender identity include our gender expression and gender role. Sexual identity is a consciousness of who we want to be with romantically or sexually. Components of our sexuality include our sexual orientation and sexual behavior.

Gender Blenders put all the characteristics of masculinity and femininity together to create a unique blend of gender identity. Gender Blending is the blurring or blending of gender roles. Inside the blender is a combination of astrological symbols that represent Male (Mars), Female (Venus), Neuter (Mercury), and Asexual.

This image of the divine Male and divine Female, conjoined as one being, represents non-duality. This is the alchemical symbol for the union of Male and Female. The Logos (soul) deconstructs into Male and Female on the physical plane. The 6-pointed star represents the reconstruction of Male and Female into an Androgyne.

A symbol of Androgyny is created from the union of the God and Goddess. The God is represented by the symbol of the Horned God: a half moon pointing up. The Horned God is Associated with nature, sexuality, and hunting. The Goddess is represented by the symbol of the Triple Moon: a circle representing the full moon in the middle, a half moon on the left (waxing moon of new beginnings), and a half moon on the right (waning moon of endings). The Triple Moon can also symbolize the Maiden, the Mother, and the Crone.

Individuals with any gender identity may use a unisex toilet or restroom. Unisex restrooms benefit families that have small children as well as disabled and elderly individuals that need assistance. In addition, trans* and gender fluid individuals may use a unisex restroom without fear of harassment or embarrassment.

A symbol for transsexual transformation consists of the Greek letter “X”. As a symbol with 3 bars, it represents the 3 phases of a transsexual’s life: the pre-transition, the transition, and post-transition. “X” has multiple meanings. It is the Roman symbol for “10”, which is the number of completion and balance. “X” is a graphic representation of the interplay of opposites. “X” also represents the perfectly balanced human, one line being the spiritual, intellectual, active, and male side and the other line being the earthly, rational, passive, and female side. “X” represents the union of dualism. It also represents a cross over, as in transitioning from one physical gender to another. And lastly, “X” is short for the prefix “ex”, which means a formerly held position, as in ex-male or ex-female.

These symbols are representations of gender variance and therefore choice. They graphically portray the concept that gender identity is not linear but can have twists, turns, and even question marks.

The five-sided pentagon stands for the numbers “2” (the Male) plus “3” (the Female) which adds up to “5” (the Androgyne). Inside the pentagon are the combined symbols for Male (Mars astrological symbol), Female (Venus astrological symbol), and Neuter (Mercury astrological symbol). All are enclosed by the circle which symbolizes circular living, the throwing away of linear thinking especially for gender and sexual identity models.

The symbols for Mars (male) and Venus (female) are combined with a third arm that represents non-binary trans* people. The strike through the circle in this version represents those individuals that don’t identify as male or female. The inverted triangle was a symbol the Nazis made camp prisoners wear during World War II. Different colors represented different groups. Homosexuals had to wear the pink triangle. Today the inverted triangle has been reclaimed for use as a symbol for pride.

This graphic symbol has two feathers representing the two spiritual energies, male and female, on a background of the yin-yang symbol. The circle is a symbol of sacred cycles that have no beginning and no end.

IOZ is a fictional but intriguing concept from the movie Zerophilia*. It is about individuals that are born with an additional chromosome, the “Z” chromosome. These individuals change sex whenever they are sexually aroused to orgasm with an individual of the opposite sex or with another zerophiliac.
*Zerophilia (2005) written by Martin Curland

The Taijitu (diagram of supreme ultimate) is the Chinese symbol for yin (female) and yang (male). It is a classic symbol for the balance and harmony of opposite energies.

The Yin Yang Yuen was designed to include a third gender in the traditional Tao symbol of yin (female) and yang (male).

The word “pan” comes from the Greek word for “all”. Pansexuals are sexually and romantically attracted to individuals of all gender identities. They understand that there is a much wider gender spectrum than just males and females. In other words, being attracted to an individual’s soul, energy, and inner beauty supersedes the importance of the physical body.

A new symbol for pangender. The word “pan” comes from the Greek word for “all”. Individuals that are pangender experience many or all gender identities. The number of genders may fluctuate. They may be experienced one at a time or simultaneously. Pangender is non-binary and multi-gender.

Diversity Gender Diversity Sexual
The symbols for multiple gender and sexual orientations. Variations include combinations of astrological symbols that represent Male (Mars), Female (Venus), and Neuter (Mercury), and Intersex (Earth).

The hormones that create secondary sexual characteristics in humans.

Standing at the intersection of Gender Drive and Sexuality Street, what direction are you traveling?

Compiled and designed by Drake Bear Stephen. Note: Many symbols are universal and some were designed by others.

Copyright © 2022 Drake Bear Stephen. Except where acknowledged.

Soul Sex: The Alchemy of Gender and Sexuality



How does your gender and sexual identity define you? Find out in this guide for identity fluidity in the 21st century.

The soul, when not in human form, is a being of light and energy. It has no gender and no sexual orientation. Therefore, gender and sexual identities are constructs of incarnation created for learning purposes. The question, then, is why did each of us choose our specific gender and sexual orientation for this lifetime?

I offer fresh perspectives on gender and sexual identity, including biological, sociological, and psychological influences with an emphasis on spiritual impacts. Included are new concepts about gender fluidity and alternative sexual orientations. I have drawn on years of research and personal experience to create the broadest perspective of gender and sexual identity compiled in one volume.

Gender and sexual identity are two of the most basic but powerful aspects of our personal identity. These are the bedrocks upon which we build our self-concept and the lenses through which we view the world. Labels are not important but self-identity is critical to self-empowerment. This book illustrates how our identities are not set at fixed points but lay along ever-shifting continua. Here you will discover:

  • How gender and sexual identities are created and why.
  • How gender and sexual identities change throughout one lifetime or over multiple lifetimes.
  • Theories on why a soul chooses its gender and sexual identity when incarnating.
  • Introduction of the Energy Body.
  • The history and mythology of Two Spirit and Third Gender cultures around the world.
  • The real story of a “boy named Sue”: my life as a Four Spirit.

If you have questioned your gender and sexual identity or if you have never questioned your gender and sexual identity, this book is for you. This book is also for individuals who want a deeper understanding of gender and sexual identities, individuals who are improving their self-empowerment through identity ownership, individuals who are exploring identity fluidity, and students of gender and sexuality studies.

In Soul Sex, I offer a buffet of perspectives on gender, sexuality, and identity. You are invited to sample each of the dishes as food for thought.

Fluidity is the new identity of the 21st century.
Acceptance is the new morality.
Self-empowerment is the new mantra.


ISBN#: Paper: 978-0-9862498-1-5
Electronic: 978-0-9862498-0-8

Library of Congress PCN#: 2015904369

Price & Publish Date: Paper: $24.00 April 1, 2015
Electronic: $9.95 May 1, 2015

Category: SOC 032000 Social Science: Gender Studies
PSY 016000 Psychology: Human Sexuality
REL 105000 Religion: Sexuality & Gender Studies

Length: 360 pages, 75,000 words, 50 illustrations

Format: 6” (w) x 9” (h) x 0.75” (d) Trade Paperback


Prologue: Switcheroo
The Real Story of a Boy Named Sue

Chapter 1: Introduction
Welcome to the Art & Soul of Gender & Sexuality

Chapter 2: Biology of Gender & Sexuality
The Forces of Nature

Chapter 3: Sociology & Psychology of Gender & Sexuality
The Forces of Nurture

Chapter 4: Spirituality of Gender & Sexuality
The Forces of the Spirit World

Chapter 5: The Energy Body & the Physical Body
The Layers of Body Consciousness

Chapter 6: Gender Identity
The Consciousness of Gender

Chapter 7: Sexual Identity
The Consciousness of Sexuality

Chapter 8: Changing Gender
Transitioning Gender & Sexual Orientation in One Lifetime

Chapter 9: Reincarnation
Transitioning Gender & Sexual Orientation over Multiple Lifetimes

Chapter 10: Two Spirits & 3rd Gender Cultures
Alternative Gender & Sexual Identities in Culture

Chapter 11: Self-Empowerment Support Services
Tools for Increasing Self-Knowledge & Belief in Self

Epilogue: Conclusion
Our Journey through the Sacred & Secular

Appendix: Reference Tools

  • Passion Poems: The Author’s Trans*ition Poetry
  • Inspirational Quotes
  • Gender Diversity Etiquette
  • Days to Commemorate Gender & Sexual Identity Diversity
  • Glossary of Gender & Sexual Identity Terms
  • Bibliography
  • Index


I am a Transpersonal Hypnotherapist and a Shamanic Energy Medicine Practitioner. I specialize in Past Life Regression Therapy. My background includes a 37-year career in telecommunications and a degree in art and psychology. I am a Four Spirit having lived as a bisexual in both female and male genders in this lifetime. I have been an intense student of metaphysics and spirituality for the past thirteen years.


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“Fluidity is the new identity of the 21st century.
Acceptance is the new morality.
Self-empowerment is the new mantra.”

“In Soul Sex, I am offering a buffet, from soup to nuts, of perspectives on gender, sexuality, and identity. I invite you to sample each of the dishes as food for thought.”

“Your genes determine what’s in your jeans (your biological body) but not what type of jeans you wear (your psychological identity).”

“The soul, when not incarnated, is a being of light and energy. It has no gender, no sex, and no sexual orientation. Gender and sexual identity are constructs of human incarnation. This means that the states of gender and sexual identity are created for the sole purpose of learning.”

“Gender identity is state of mind and not necessarily the physical state of the body. It drives social role and personal presentation. Sexual identity is a state of mind that drives the sexual activity of the physical body and the emotions of the heart.”

“Sexuality and gender are two of the most basic but powerful aspects of our personal identity. They are the bedrock upon which we build our self-concept and the lens through which we view the outer world.”

“A rose is a rose is a rose. But if a rose could talk, and it said it was not, would it still be a rose? This is the consciousness of identity.”

“The wonder of identity builds gender in 12 ways: psychologically, physically, professionally, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, biologically, legally, financially, aesthetically, ethically, and socially.”

“Although all individuals together make up a common tapestry, each of their lives is a unique and colorful thread. In Soul Sex we examine all of the independent threads of gender and sexuality to see how they weave together to create a beautiful textile.”

“Assuming a gender and sexual identity is not about putting on one outfit and wearing it for an entire lifetime. As outfits become outdated or outgrown, they can be discarded for new ones.”

“Gender is the prism that each one of us perceives others through in this physical world. It is the most observable quality about an individual.”

“We usually ‘read’ others’ gender from surface clues of the physical body, but an individual also has a gender energy that is not always as recognizable even though it is always present.”

“Gender and sexual identities are not caused but created. The creation of self-identity is complex, multi-dimensional, and made up of seen and unseen forces, including: biological, sociological, psychological, and spiritual factors.”

“Biology is no longer destiny due to the advances of Western medicine and surgical techniques. Now consciousness can power gender identity.”

“There are four major forces that shape the physical body: your genes, your hormones, time, and what you think of yourself.”

“21st century birth announcements should be non-gender specific and announce ‘Congratulations! It’s a human!’”

“Androgynous, intersex, and third gender individuals have been present from ancient times to modern times throughout the world. They are present in mythological and creation stories from many cultures and religions. Why then is a binary system of gender and sexual identity still the mainstream model in most cultures?”

“Non-conforming gender and sexual identities are gradually being eliminated from the books on mental disorders because these identities are natural and normal. Social awakening and subsequent law reforms are in progress to reflect the new consciousness of personal identity freedom and expression.”

“Picture your soul as a holographic globe with a continuum of sexual identity acting as longitude and a continuum of gender identity acting as latitude. Just as you can live at any longitude and latitude coordinates on Earth, you can be at any longitude and latitude of identity within the Soul. With free choice and fluidity of identity available to you at all times, you can spend an entire lifetime on one point or move from point to point throughout one lifetime.”

“Gender and sexuality are fluid and not permanently assigned at birth. It is possible for individuals to live outside of the two gender boxes of male and female. They can wake up each day and decide who they want to be at that moment in time.”

“Don’t assume that gender identity matches birth assigned sex. Modern etiquette practices should include asking an individual their preferred name and preferred pronoun.”

“We need to adapt our modern language to allow for non-gender specific pronouns that don’t keep us trapped in the old binary gender system.”

“Indigenous cultural perspectives that are based on a circular concept that all things are connected and interrelated seem to embrace the three or more gender classification systems more easily than Western cultural perspectives that are based on the linear concept that all things have a polar opposite and act independently of one another. These linear based belief systems perpetuate the binary sex system of only two legal gender statuses.”

“Because there are only two options at present, male or female, in binary gender systems, there is no place for individuals who have an identity that is both male and female or at some point between male and female. Yet the number of individuals who do not identify as either of the two legal choices is steadily on the rise.”

“Not all individuals with non-conforming gender identities are the same. Some individuals have a gender identity that is opposite of their birth assigned sex and take steps to transition the physical body to match their identity while others may have a gender identity that is somewhere between the male and female poles. These individuals make up the third gender.”

“How can people say it is unnatural to be somewhere between male and female? Picture a beautiful flower: the petals of its feminine genitalia enshroud the masculine phallus at its center.”

“Trans* individuals that live in a binary gender system are pressured to completely transit from one gender to the other. However, if there were a third gender option, how many might choose to remain at some identity between the two? How many truly embody characteristics of both male and female? Would more individuals be asking for both male and female genitalia? After all, wouldn’t that be the best of all worlds?”

“Past life experiences can have a big effect on current gender and sexual identities. In addition, a soul may change gender and sexual identity from one lifetime to another. The soul chooses specific identities to experience and learn for the purpose of growth.”

“The understanding, welcoming, and acceptance of trans* and intersex individuals as natural beings would change many lives in profound ways. Gone would be ostracism, shaming, stigmatizing, discrimination, bullying, and hate crimes perpetrated just because an individual is considered to be different.”

“I guess I am living the Reader’s Digest abridged version of fluid identity. I am a Four Spirit having lived a straight female-bodied individual; as a lesbian female-bodied individual; as a straight male-bodied individual; and as a gay male-bodied individual in one lifetime.”

“A transsexual’s emancipation proclamation is a custom made body. Surgery is one small step for a lifetime, one huge step towards freedom.”

“We should abandon classifying sexuality on the basis of an individual being attracted to someone like or opposite themselves. Individuals can identify their sexuality based on the object of their love i.e. andro-loving, gyno-loving, or pan-loving.”

“A chameleosexual is an individual whose sexual role is dependent on what the gender orientation of their partner is. In other words, an individual that is sexually versatile depending on the gender of their partner.”

“I’m not homo, hetero, bi, tri, or pan but simply sexual.”


“Self-identity is self-knowledge. Self-knowledge accompanied with self-esteem creates self-empowerment.”

“If we scuttle the belief that we are victims, we realize that each of us is so powerful that we intentionally create our Earth identities for the specific purposes of learning and experience. The resulting wisdom is a gift to our soul.”

“No matter who you are or how you identify, you are exactly who you are supposed to be at this given moment in time. Your mission, if you so choose to accept it, is to recognize your self-worth, amplify your self-love, and step into your personal power.”

“Each one of us is a prize from the Universe to our Self and from our Self to the Universe. Your personal prize is as precious as diamonds, more valuable than gold, and the most beautiful rainbow ever seen.”

“Every individual has the sacred right to their identity. Identity is complex, multi-dimensional, and as unique to each individual as snowflakes are different.”

“The bottom line is that all things are possible in the world of energy. And our entire universe and all its multiple dimensions, known or unknown, consists of energy.”

“As you heal old wounds, cancel outdated vows and contracts, and create a luminous Energy Body, you are free to find the treasure you seek. It may be peace, empowerment, energy, health, creativity, prosperity, spirituality, or love. But I guarantee that by the end of your quest, you will find that you are the treasure!”

“Being compassionate doesn’t mean you need to walk a mile in my moccasins. It simply means walk a mile next to me. With respect.”

“Projections become reflections. The world is a mirror. Use it to your advantage. What belief, thoughts, words, and actions you project upon its shiny surface is none other than the very same beliefs, thoughts, words, and actions that are reflected back to you from others.”

“Like a kid in an identity shop, I am searching for the Holy Gail, that Wind of Life, on whose wings I can ride to peace.”

“Self-security is created by striking a balance of being in a power position (yang energy) and being in a peaceful place (yin energy).”

“Self-identity is self-empowerment.”

“The stronger an individual’s identity is, the more at peace they will be because owning one’s identity is empowering.”

“Self-empowerment consists of four steps: 1) Know Yourself. 2) Love Yourself. 3) Be Yourself. and 4) Share Yourself.”

“Most of us have experienced some form of trauma while growing up but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to love ourselves, claim our power, and manifest a successful life. The possibilities all lie in the power of our perception.”

“The Golden Rule of Empowerment: Be true to yourself. And honor others for being true to themselves.”


“Our identities are created, like the perfect storm, when multiple forces converge on one physical body in one lifetime. These forces are divided into three aspects: the Physical (includes nature, hormones, DNA, and genes); the Mental/Emotional (includes nurturing, family, culture, society, and personality); and the Spiritual (includes astrology, past lives, karma, pre-life selection, and soul purpose).”

“In our current lives not only are we are working on the karma that we created in past lives but we are creating karma that will affect our future lives.”

“Our inability to accept differences in others has the power to destroy lives. Furthermore, karma being what it is, individuals that persecute others because of differences will be experiencing the other end of that persecution in a future life.”

“Duality is a construct where incarnated souls learn from experiencing polar opposites. But duality is also a spectrum with an infinite number of points between the polar opposites. We learn balance by traveling along the spectrum until we find the middle point.”

“What we see when we look in the mirror is what the world reflects back to us. We get what we believe we deserve. When we believe we are not good enough or deserve what we want, we block the flow of abundance, prosperity, and love. The more we love ourselves the more of our dreams we are able to manifest.”

“The only thing we can take with us out of this lifetime is the knowledge and wisdom that our soul acquires. So any gain we make in knowing ourselves will stay with us. These are the questions to ask in the quest for wisdom: Who am I? Where do I come from? Where am I going? What is my purpose? What are my gifts?”

“Perhaps my soul is really homeless because it has wandered through so many lifetimes in so many different cultures, creeds, genders, sexualities, and spiritualties.”

“A predominant characteristic of older souls is that they come onto the Earth plane with a sense of knowing. My message to old souls is, don’t let others shame you away from what you know even when you feel you are in a minority of one. Go with your gut instinct because it is the truth for you.”

“I was born in the 1950s where there was only the Black and White Way. There weren’t any Ifs, Ands, Buts, or Gray Areas allowed. Unfortunately, by the age of six, I knew I was not fitting in well with the Black and White Way. The 1960s introduced, and the 21st century is reinforcing, a replacement model for the Black and White Way. It is an inclusive Shades of Gray Way.”

“Shifting our perception from static to dynamic enables us to stop thinking in black and white and start thinking in the colorful multi-shades of the spectrum. This enables two-dimensional linear models that limit the human experience to transform into three-dimensional spherical models that are inclusive.”

“There is no such thing as ‘being born in the wrong body’. A soul may incarnate with a mismatch between identity and physical body for various reasons but it is not accidental. A soul sets the parameters of their life before incarnating. Realizing this changes an individual’s perspective from victimhood to self-empowerment.”

Copyright © 2015 Drake Bear Stephen. Except where acknowledged.


Window Speak


#1: “Keep on passing open windows” means don’t jump. Never, ever, give up on your life.
The phrase “Keep passing the open windows” comes from John Irving’s novel The Hotel New Hampshire, published in 1981. It’s from the story about someone who committed suicide by jumping from a window. “Keep passing the open windows” another way of saying “carry on when the going gets tough”. I have never forgotten that phrase since reading the book.

#2: Our perception provides multiple windows through which we can gaze into many dimensions.

#3: Sometimes we put up a lot of window dressing perhaps as a way to camouflage what’s inside.

#4: If you are living the dark night of the soul, open a window to let a guiding light in.

#5: In case of loneliness, break window and escape into the world.

#6: Armchair travelers are content to watch the world from their window.

#7: Sometimes it is easier to see the big picture when looking through a window.

#8: Sometimes life shows us a series of windows within windows.

#9: Sometimes we just want to window shop at what all life has to offer!

#10: Sometimes we watch life safely from behind a window and even stick our big guns out for protection.

#11: Sometimes the best respite of all is to just put up your feet and watch life pass by your window.

#12: Even ivory towers have windows that look out upon the world.

#13: Afraid of the dark? Leave a light in the window.

#14: Eyes are the windows to the soul. Windows are the eyes of our soul through
which we perceive the world.

#15: If the door to your path is closed, escape through a window.


Freedom is the open window through which pours the sunlight of the human spirit and human dignity. –Herbert Hoover

May your walls know joy; May every room hold laughter and every window open to great possibility. –Maryanne Radmacher Hershey

Where ever I am I always find myself looking out the window wishing I was somewhere else. –Angelina Jolie

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within. –Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

A window of opportunity for me usually involves a rock. –Jay London

If a window of opportunity appears, don’t pull down the shade. –Tom Peters

Our senses are indeed our doors and windows on this world, in a very real sense the key to the unlocking of meaning and the wellspring of creativity. -Jean Houston
Strange things blow in through my window on the wings of the night wind and I don’t worry about my destiny. –Carl Sandburg

Friends are like windows through which you see out into the world and back into yourself… If you don’t have friends you see much less than you otherwise might. –Merle Shain

Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world. –George Bernard Shaw

Don’t waste a minute not being happy. If one window closes, run to the next window- or break down a door. –Brooke Shields

A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside. –Denis Waitley

Set wide the window. Let me drink the day. –Edith Wharton

I got a window just to peek into a world I never had access to. –Carmen Wurgel

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Door Speak


#1: Open doors lead to open roads.

#2: Each time I pray to Great Spirit I request that new doors be opened for me. I tell them I am ready now to continue my soul’s journey.

#3: The door is a portal through which we step into new worlds that await us.

#4: The excitement of stepping through an open door is encountering the mystery of what is found beyond its threshold.

#5: On the other side of a doorway are new people to meet and new experiences to enjoy.

#6: Some doors may seem to bar the way but does this imprison the soul or is it a test of resolve to move on?

#7: There may be some doorways that look like dead ends but even these are meant to teach the soul something.

#8: If a door leads to vices, a lesson awaits the soul.

#9: A closed door indicates a moment of pause because delay is protection; a time for reflection, relaxation, renewal, rest, or rejuvenation.

#10: The way may look chaotic, even rocky, but trust the open door.

#11: Not all doors are in the external world. Some are internal and one in particular regulates access to the heart. If it’s open, come on in. If it’s closed, it is a time for protection.

#12: An open door provides opportunity. The road beyond is opportunity’s manifestation.

#13: An open door is a portal of revolution. Stepping through is an act of evolution.

#14: Stepping through open doors, no matter in which direction they lead, is a requirement for the soul to move forward. Enjoy your journey.

#15: I “a-door” a grand doorway. It beckons with anticipation of a great adventure.

#16: There are doors in nature that open into the world of fairies, elves, and other nature spirits. Enter here to play with Mama Earth and synch to her rhythms.

#17: These days, retirement is not the end of life or the start of old age but merely a second mid-life. As the door closes on one career, a door opens on a new one. That career can be a purpose of leisure and joy or fulfilling a long awaited passion.
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Sometimes we stare so long at a door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open. –Alexander Graham Bell

If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door. –Milton Berle

Education is the key to unlock the golden door of freedom. – George Washington Carver

Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. –Coco Chanel

The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence. –Confucius

Not knowing when the dawn will come I open every door. –Emily Dickinson

Every wall is a door. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

Reality is a sliding door. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

There is always one moment in childhood when the door opens and lets the future in. –Graham Greene

Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean. –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Just be honest with yourself. That opens the door. –Vernon Howard

He who opens a school door, closes a prison. –Victor Hugo

There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception. –Aldous Huxley

Life is an unfoldment, and the further we travel the more truth we can comprehend. To understand the things that are at our door is the best preparation for understanding those that lie beyond. –Hypatia

When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us. –Helen Keller

In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand. Nobody on earth can give you either the key or the door to open, except yourself. –Jiddu Krishnamurti

You have to come to your closed doors before you get to your open doors. What if you knew you had to go through 32 closed doors before you got to your open door? Well, then you’d come to closed door number eight and you’d think, ‘Great, I got another one out of the way’… Keep moving forward. –Joel Osteen

Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself. –Chinese Proverb

The back of one door is the face of another. –Proverb

I have become my own version of an optimist. If I can’t make it through one door, I’ll go through another door – or I’ll make a door. Something terrific will come no matter how dark the present. –Rabindranath Tagore

Philosophy is like trying to open a safe with a combination lock: each little adjustment of the dials seems to achieve nothing, only when everything is in place does the door open. –Ludwig Wittgenstein

A man will be imprisoned in a room with a door that’s unlocked and opens inwards; as long as it does not occur to him to pull rather than push. –Ludwig Wittgenstein

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